Five ways to conquer motherhood

With two little conquerors running around the house, this is one mama who feels “conquered” most days.

Tired. Worn down. Discouraged. Frazzled.

I know other moms can feel the same way. It doesn’t matter if your kids are 4-years-old or 24. Motherhood can conquer you.

Recently, I’ve talked with two dear friends who are battling deep discouragement over family situations that are out of their control. But Scripture says that even when life and circumstances are hurtling down a track like a runaway train, we can still be conquerors.

In Rom. 8:37, Paul tells us yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

To be fair, in this passage Paul isn’t talking about ‘motherhood’ per se. He’s talking about circumstances experienced by the church at Rome that were beyond their control. The apostle promises them they could conquer:

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  • distress
  • persecution
  • famine
  • nakedness
  • peril
  • sword
  • tribulation


If it’s possible to conquer major life crises like famine and persecution, then we can rest assured that God won’t let strong-willed children, grocery store meltdowns, and willful rebellion against authority conquer us either.

So, how is it possible to conquer your circumstances?

In Rom. 8:31-37, Paul lists five ways you can be more than a conqueror.

1.      Your God is on your side.

“If God is for us, who can be against us?” Rom. 8:31 

 2.      Your God fights on your behalf.

“He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things?” Rom. 8:32

3.      Your God justifies you.

“Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies”. Rom. 8:33

4.      Your God is THE Judge.

“Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us.” Rom. 8:34

5.      Your God is Love.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? … Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” Rom. 8:35-37 

Because of God’s activity through His Son, we are more than conquerors.

And when Paul says we are “more than conquerors” he is literally saying we win over our circumstances by a “surpassing victory.” We don’t win the battle by a margin. We don’t just squeak by; our victory is overwhelming.

As a mom, I need the hope of an overwhelming victory over my circumstances more than anything.  

So, what exactly are we winning the victory over? You can probably guess. It’s not well-behaved kids, not the promise of a college degree, not the gift of natural athletic abilities, nor any other misplaced parenting goal.

In verses 38-39, Paul speaks of those things we fear the most. Those things we can’t hope to conquer without some Divine assistance. We receive victory over:

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  • life
  • death
  • principalities
  • powers
  • things in the present
  • things to come
  • space (height nor depth)
  • nor any created thing


As veteran conquerors, we can find victory over those things that only God can beat. Which is everything.

So, be encouraged, Mom. If you have a relationship with Christ, you will prevail over circumstances because of the One who fights on your behalf. God brings the victory and as recipients of his love and as his children, we become conquerors over life’s greatest dilemmas and troubles – even the antics of four-year-old twins.

What circumstances do you need a victory over? Share your story in the comments!

Today, I’m linking up to:

Grace Laced Mondays


  1. says

    This is so true Melissa, thanks for sharing! We have to put complete trust in God knowing He is in control. It sometimes seems harder when it is our children and our desire to see them follow the Lord when we are watching them stray. What is so amazing is the more we rely on and trust God, clinging to and applying scripture, like what you just shared, the more our faith grows, we can walk in victory and have peace even when our circumstances seem out of control.

  2. says

    Such great reminders! Thank you for this much needed encouragement to take my mind off of the “smaller” difficulties and onto the HUGE difficulties that have been overcome by Christ. **Also, adorable pics of the boys!

  3. says

    This was such an encouraging post….a call to fix our eyes on what God is ABLE to do, and not where we are incapable. (BTW…I’m featuring your post tomorrow on the link-up!) Thanks for linking up, Melissa!


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